What, legally, does it mean to be a parent?
The majority of people with kids don’t think about that much. We know we are parents. We think we know what it means.
But for parents going through an adoption process or who are building their family with the help of surrogacy or other reproductive technologies, parenting itself might seem like the easy part. Obtaining legal recognition as their child’s parents can be much more complicated.
If you adopt a child, or have a child through surrogacy or assisted reproductive technology, you likely need a court order to confirm your legal standing as parent of your child. It could be an adoption order, or a declaration of parentage. Depending on the circumstances, even being named as a parent or co-parent on your child’s birth certificate may not be enough. Bizarrely, in some situations this can be the case even if you are the genetic parent of your child. A court order is important not just to confirm your standing as a parent, but to provide certainty that other people involved in the process of your child’s birth—such as a sperm donor— don’t later come forward and seek that standing.
The rules are different in different provinces, and are changing all the time. In British Columbia, new legislation is in the works that will make it clear that the fact someone donates reproductive material is not enough to make that person a parent of the children resulting from that donation. Only the birth mother and the birth mother’s married or common-law spouse will be deemed to be parents– unless the parties involved agree otherwise through a written agreement before the child is conceived.
This is just one of many changes the new Family Law Act( Bill 16) has in store for British Columbians planning to have children through adoption or assisted reproductive technologies. The Act is not yet in force, but when it is, it promises some needed certainty for parents. Stay tuned.